- Clarify Your Goals
- Tools to Help you Re-Energize
and Re-Commit To Your Direction!
By: Connie Butler
We are well into this new
year and perhaps it is time to review where you are in terms
of your intentions and goals for the year. By this time many
of you may have drifted off course, if even slightly or even
worse may have totally lost track of your true direction. So
the question becomes how can you regain that fresh new start,
energy and enthusiasm that can come in the first flush of setting
One of the primary reasons people
fail in their intentions or dont see them through is that
they have not developed the emotional component of their direction
or their dream sufficiently. Often people set goals that are
more cerebral and not tied deeply enough to their natures and
their true emotional satisfaction. For instance, setting a goal
to reach a certain financial benchmark in a year, change a particular
habit or reach another level of personal or professional development
while being valid may not consistently engage you emotionally.
The challenges of daily life, the unforeseen turbulence of events
may derail your intentions - however good they may be. But if
you can easily return to the REAL goal, the emotional goal you
have a better chance of re-energizing your efforts.
Clarity in this realm is essential
and is the greatest course correction you can use. For instance,
if you want to increase your income to a certain level this year
my question would be how will you feel when you reach that?
What will it give you emotionally,
who will you BE then? This is a very personal question it is
not the same for everyone. When I lead my clients through an
exercise to get at this each of them has a very distinct answer
and experience. You have to discover what the juice
is for you. So there are two parts to this question. What will
it feel like? And also who will you be? Lets look at both
I will need to digress a tad
here to start your inquiry into both of them. Human beings are
the only species we are aware of who have the capacity to imagine.
It is a magnificent faculty and one that is not only underused
but also usually used wrongly. When you can harness it as a support
for yourself and your life you not only have a treasure trove
of inspiration and energy you also can develop more clarity about
what you are really trying to accomplish. Many people habitually
use their precious imagination to either subtly or blatantly
undermine themselves. Every time you envision or expect the worst
or even a negative outcome you are energetically and actually
creating a block to your progress. Take the next week and notice
what happens when your efforts get derailed or you find yourself
missing the mark. I would suspect that most often, if only for
a millisecond, you envision a negative outcome to the scenario.
If these milliseconds accumulate you will find yourself heading
in a direction completely opposed to your initial intent and
often end up abandoning what it is that you want. Your emotional
energy is drained.
So I propose harnessing that
magnificent and creative quality of imagination! Take a few moments
and review what your intention is for the year, for the week
or even for the day. Use your imagination in whatever way feels
appropriate for you - visualize, sense, know, feel yourself in
the place where that is accomplished and working well - youve
attained that financial benchmark, your business has grown to
the level you want, your personal life is humming along, you
have created what it is that you wish to contribute to life.
As you imagine that allow yourself to feel what it feels like-
what are the emotions present. Is it power, safety, contentment,
peace, joy? Be curious about what is really there for you (as
I said this is very personal to you) and then let yourself taste
that as deeply as you can. That is your emotional goal. That
is the juice, the energy you need to keep yourself inspired and
moving in concert with your life. When this is done fully and
repeatedly you will be able to come back easily to your intention
and it will also open up your own creativity.
I am thinking now of a client
recently who was working with this. She found herself in a situation
with her children and others at an event. A very familiar chaos
was ensuing and she was alert enough to notice she was falling
into an old pattern of Oh here we go again. But in
the moment she caught herself imagining again the intention she
had for the event and was able to find a fresh solution to the
problem. She was truly amazed with the in the moment
power of this.
Another client who began a new
business and was hitting a rough patch in its development kept
going back to this to refresh his clarity about what he was really
trying to accomplish. As he was able to bring the emotional component
forward and feel it on a daily basis both his commitment and
his focus returned. He stayed the course and is thriving.
Dont underestimate the
power and the elegance of this as an ongoing practice. When you
are able to feel into the power of the emotional goal you will
find that it is more deeply tied to who you are and where your
satisfaction lies. The use of your imagination in this way becomes
very inspiring and opens a place in you that finds new solution,
makes new connections and helps you sustain the creative energy
you need to keep focused.
The other question is Who
will you be? If you can take your imagination another step
and see or sense who you will be when your goal is accomplished
you have a clear view into what you may need to develop in yourself
to get there. For instance if you imagine the goal in its accomplished
form - notice who you have become. Perhaps you are more confident,
more patient, more trusting, more in charge of the decisions
you make. What qualities do you need to develop in order to become
that person? See if you can discover this and then go to work
in bringing those qualities forward in yourself. Notice them
in other, read about them, and find ways to practice them. Who
we become as people is the basis of any of the success that we
create in life. The growth in your professional life is truly
your own individual and remarkable personal growth path. When
you take this last step you begin to embody the success you want
to achieve. You become more agile in your responses to situations
and more able to see opportunities that may be right there staring
you in the face.
Once more I will quote this
definition: work\werk\n: an opportunity for discovering
and shaping; the place where the self meets the world.