- A Wedding Shower
- By: Claire Bowes
Bridal showers are one of many
pre-wedding parties and are great fun. They are known as parties
with a purpose. The purpose of a shower is to assist the couple
in equipping their new home or for the bride to assemble a trousseau.
Not only that, but they are a good excuse for the bride to get
together with her friends and family to play hilarious games
and to enjoy the food and wine.
Did you know that a trend has
started for couples showers? This is sometimes termed
as the Jack and Jill shower where you
shower both the bride and groom with gifts and good wishes. Either
way, if you are having a traditional shower party for just the
bride, or decide to have a couples shower, then the planning
and the checklist will invariably be the same.
Here is an outline of a wedding
shower checklist to get you on your way to organizing a great
Who should host the shower?
Traditionally the maid of honour
tends to plan the shower party. But today, anything goes and
it is perfectly acceptable for both family and friends to work
together to organize, host and share the cost of the wedding
shower. It doesn't really matter who actually hosts the party
as long as it is planned well in advance and normally in consultation
with the bride. If the shower is planned to be in someones
home, then it's always a good idea to choose the person with
the largest home or garden.
When to have your party
Because of the busy schedule
the bride and her family will have in the lead up to her wedding,
it is best to hold the shower about four to six weeks before
the wedding. A growing trend is that more wedding showers are
no longer a surprise and statistics show that 4 out of 5 brides
are employed, therefore it is necessary to include the bride
in the planning when it comes to setting a date and time. A traditional
"girl-only" party could be a Sunday brunch, a midweek
lunch or an afternoon tea garden party.
Couples showers are best held
on a weekend day or evening. The majority of people tend to work
between 9-5 Monday-Friday, therefore a weekend is a safe bet
in that most of the couples friends and relatives can attend.
If you are having a shower party with work colleagues, then the
ideal time would be in your lunch hour or straight after work.
Who to invite
Apart from your family members,
the host should invite people you know well whether it be friends,
relatives or work colleagues. You don't want to invite too many
people, as a large group tends to split off in small separate
groups. You want everyone to interact with each other and be
a manageable size for everybody to play the hilarious shower
games and not feel left out. Taking all this into consideration,
a comfortable shower should involve about 10-20 people.
You don't necessarily need to
buy expensive shower invitations. Another growing trend is that
many brides are doing their wedding research on the Internet.
The internet has opened up many cheaper avenues and
you can now get some great printable-wedding-shower-invitations.
These invitations are customized with your own wording and design,
and are printed directly from your own printer.
Whats your Theme?
As with the actual wedding, it
is wise to choose a theme before sending out the invitations.
The theme can then be used throughout the shower and incorporated
in with the invitations, decorations, favors and refreshments.
There are literally dozens of
topics for a shower party theme. The most popular is the kitchen
theme as there are endless pieces of equipment and accessories
you can buy for the kitchen. The host knows the bride well and
will surely fit a theme around either what the bride and groom
need, or their lifestyle. For example if the happy couple are
both into health and fitness, then a fitness theme could be an
One good idea for a couples shower
is a wine tasting theme. This is ideal for a Saturday night party
and I am sure the men will enjoy this one and easily get into
the swing of things!
Food, Favors and Games
Food: It depends on the theme and location for which
type of food to prepare. For example, if you are holding a wine
tasting theme, then a finger buffet with crackers, nuts
and other nibbles goes down well with wine. If you are holding
a garden shower party, consider light finger food - cheeses,
crackers, fresh fruit, mini-quiches, blueberry cream puffs, crab
dip and a bacon, egg and cheese casserole and salads.
Favors: Some people choose not to give shower favors.
It really depends on where you live and if it is a tradition
in your area or not. If you do, you dont have to go overboard
with favors if you want to keep the expense down. Give something
small and useful like a scented candle. Most people like scented
candles and they are practical. A potpourri satchel is another
welcome and practical idea.
Games: Everyone should be included in the shower games.
Shower party games are a great ice-breaker for people to get
to know each other. Games can include bridal shower bingo as
this is always a big hit as is whats in the bag (memory
game). Trivia questions about the bridge and groom or making
a wedding dress with toilet paper are all fun games to be had.
Thank You Cards: Normally a simple
thank-you was enough, but today, with showers being
larger and guests busier, a personal note is the only way to
make sure that sincere appreciation is expressed.
Bridal showers are meant to be
fun. They do need a lot of planning and organization in advance,
but they are worth it. The bride and groom receive practical
gifts for their home, and shower partys are a great excuse
to get together with friends and family to have one whale of