- Self Care and Time Management: How
to Keep Your Life in Balance At All Times
- By Dr. David S. Gruder, Ph.D.,
Do you manage your time effectively?
Do you keep your life in balance?
Do you maintain optimum physical,
mental, emotional and spiritual wellness?
Do you take care of yourself
the way you should?
Or, does the story below relate
Sue never got enough sleep. She
was lucky if she got 3 to 4 hours of sleep each night. There
was just too much to do and not enough hours in the day to do
it all. Lack of sleep turned out to be the tip of the iceberg
It did not matter to her how
many work hours she had to put in, whether in the office or at
home. Sue was always drained, perpetually scattered and alone.
In time she confessed virtually every available wall in her amply
sized executive office suite had stacks of papers, files and
books propped up against it always on the verge of teetering
Her home was so full of clutter
she was embarrassed to invite friends or dates to visit. Similarly
her mind felt like it was bulging at the seams. Her bank accounts
were a mess. She regularly bounced checks despite having enough
money to cover her expenses.
Her social and love life were
nearly nonexistent. She had no time for the jewelry she so dearly
loved to create. Nor did she have time for the social causes
that were close to her heart.
Because she didn't know how to
manage her time and balance her life.
Sue had an under-energized, self-neglectful
relationship with self-care in all aspects. She suffered from
* Inner Self-Care -- This resulted
in exhaustion, irritability, weight problems, chronic stress,
physical imbalances, weakened immune system and gluttony.
* Environmental Self-Care --Sue
tolerated home and work ambiences that drained her. People began
to undermine her wellbeing, self-esteem and her leadership abilities.
Crisis and melodrama became part of Sue's lifestyle.
* Logistical Self-Care -- This
resulted in complete disorganization. Sue was stretched too thin.
She had imbalances between work and play and between spending
and saving. She even fell behind with home maintenance or errands.
Healthy self-care is a key foundational
element in all forms of integrity: self-integrity, relationship
integrity, societal integrity and leadership integrity.
What is Self Care?
Self-Care is far different from
self-centeredness. It is also far more than merely good sleep,
nutrition and exercise habits. Our bodies are complex machine.
We cannot sustain our energy unless we are supporting our spiritual,
our psychological, our physical and our energetic aspects of
our whole being.
Self-Care Is About Keeping Your:
* Energy strong and balanced
* Mind calm yet alert
* Body capable of supporting you in all areas of your life
* Environment nourishing
* Life logistics under control
7 Tips to Improve Your Self-Care
& Balance Your Life Habits
1. Maintain Basic Physical Health
Habits. You need to get enough quality sleep for your body's
needs and movement. You also need to add a high-quality nutritional
diet to your energy system balancing.
2. Add Time to Soothe, Recharge
and Play. Engage in soothing habits that make you purr, such
as a massage or a bath. Take time out to restore your inner juice
with activities, such as watching your favorite sitcom, gardening
or just about any truly creative endeavor that gives you energy.
And, don't forget to participate in activities that bring out
the kid in you.
3. Quiet Your Inner Voice. Participate
in relaxing activities that allow you to enter inner silence
and take a vacation from constant mind chatter. Some people use
prayer to quiet their mind. Others will meditate. You can also
do Tai Chi, Qigong or Yoga and simultaneously take care of your
daily need for physical movement and internal quieting
4. Arrange your surroundings
so that they most deeply nurture you. This includes not only
your physical environments but your people environments as well.
5 Know your optimal blend between
"alone time" and "people time."
6. Master goal setting, time
management, file management and money management strategies.
Balancing work with play, spending with saving, and making sure
that your job and financial choices support your needs for creative
self-expression and your ability to spend quality time with those
you love while still having energy left over to be of service
in the world in ways that call to you.
7. Streamline your chores and
tasks, including home maintenance and errands
Self-Care is unavoidably a daily
practice. No amount of rest, passion or acts of service can substitute
for it. True Self-Care is simply "enlightened self-interest
and service for the higher good."
Follow these tips and you will
manage your time and balance your life.