- Valentine's Day
- by Julie Hunt
Its almost Valentines
Day! Most guys could just care less. To them, its just
a red hearted Hallmark holiday filled with high priced flowers,
tasteless candy hearts and a whole lot of pressure to perform.
But we want to feel cherished and enjoy this single day set aside
for doting, affection, romance and gifts!
Try a new approach. Let your
man off the hook this year and give him a "Get Out Of Valentines
Day Free Card." Tell him he can forget the roses, chocolates
and stuffed teddy bears. Show him that you want to make his life
easy and youd like to start a February tradition to share
from the heart
not the head, the wallet or the mall!
Dont Leave Him Hanging.
Dont think that if you have to tell him what to do that
his actions wont be genuine. Help him out! Give him ideas.
Share with him all the things he does that make you smile. Talk
about the times you felt most loved, the tiny things he does
at home that remind you how much you love him and encourage him
to do them all more often.
Be a Mirror. We tend to reflect
back what see from others. Ask him to visualize how excited he
is to see and greet you with love when he comes through the door.
Note It. Tell him how special it
would be to get a surprise love note. Tell him to stick one on
the inside of your wallet to surprise you. Hang a calendar in
the bathroom where he can daily or weekly love notes. Leave a
dry erase pen in the bathroom and ask him to put a note on the
mirror. Send me a note at email@example.com for a list of "Love
Thoughts" so he can get started and doesnt have to
come up with his own.
Dream Date. Tell him to take
you on a dream date that wont cost a dime. The only topic
of conversation is to talk about hopes and dreams. Ask him to
listen while you talk freely about what you love
want to do before you leave the planet
like to learn
Where youd like to travel
you dream of.
Affirm Actions with Words. Often
times we dont know the little things that men to do show
their love. Ask him to tell you. When he goes out of his way
to do little things tell him to reinforce it by saying, "Id
be happy to
because I want to honor you."; "I
knew youd feel special coming home to
wanted to show you how much I loved by
Bon Appetite. Tell him he doesnt
have to cook but restaurant delivery would be fabulous! Or have
him check out one of the online gourmet delivery options. You
can have a 5 course gourmet mean dropped on your doorstep. Make
suggestions to dim the lights, play Sinatra and tell him no one
will have to do the clean up!
Sleep Tight Wishes and Bedtime
Kisses. Tell him how well you sleep when he seals the very last
moment of your day with love. Tell him you love his soft kisses.
You appreciate when he gets you water or Kleenex. You feel special
when he kisses your forehead, pulls the covers up to your chin
and says "I love you." Ask for a kiss on the shoulder
first thing in the morning too.
Help him love, honor and cherish
you this Valentines Day. If hes a little shy in the
area of expressing feeling, emotions or caring sentiments just
tell him youll call the whole Valentines Day holiday
off if he substitutes these tips and a Valentines Day card.
Julie Hunt is pure
delight and motivation. Shes a free flowing source of hope,
energy and inspiration who tells it like it is giving straight
forward and simple tips and advice so you can live happier days
and obliterate the monotony of life at www.shesite.com.
Her bottom line message is this:
"Your days are numbered so fill them with more joy, smiles,
fun and simple happy essentials. Now, get out there and embrace
the vibrant life that awaits you!"
Forget the mass marketed, red
hearted Valentine Day pressure that starts heating up about now.
Steer clear of high priced flowers, tasteless candy hearts and
stuffed bears. Follow these tips to make the woman you love feel
cherished. Tell her Valentine's Day means more than romance and
gifts. It means she'll be the focus of your caring attention,
dutiful doting and loving affection.
1. Concentration is the Name
of the Game. Guys, you have an amazing ability to focus and solve
problems! Focus on how special she is to you. Instead of stressing
about the perfect Valentines gift, think about all the
fun, silly, spunky, sexy, serious and loving things that she
does for you. Chances are shes doing exactly what she wants
you to do in return. Think about who she is. What makes her smile?
What she is truly passionate about? What small little things
could you do at home every day that would make her feel more
2. Under Promise and Over Deliver.
Make promises early and make them often
just keep them.
No emergency is more important than her love. Show your love
and respect for her by honoring your time together and your commitments.
Leave work early and call her on the way home and tell her you
just couldnt wait to see her. Ask her if shed like
you to pick up something special before you get there.
3. Be a Mirror. We reflect the
world around us
the good, the bad and the ugly. Be mindful
of her moods. When she approaches you with love and joy, mirror
it back to her and shell feel especially loved and close
4. Note It. Love notes are a
sure way to inspire a loving connection everyday of the year.
They dont all have to be sappy poems. Buy a calendar, keep
it in the bathroom and write a reason a day that you appreciate
and admire her. Follow her to the store or the dry cleaners and
leave a note on her car in the parking lot. Drop them in her
purse or write them on the bathroom mirror with a dry erase pen
for her to wake up to.
5. Dream Date. Take her on a
dream date that wont cost you a dime. Tell her the only
topic of conversation is to hear about her dreams. What she loves.
What she wants to do before she leaves the planet. What shed
like to learn. Where shed like to travel. Who she most
Let her talk freely without stopping
then write a few down later and help her create her dreams.
7. Use Actions and Words. Show
her how much you love her by going out of your way to do little
things and then reinforce it by telling her. "Id be
happy to _____ because I want to show you how much I appreciate
"I knew youd feel special coming
home to _____" or
"I wanted to show you how much
I love by _____"
8. Hugs for Health. 4 hugs for
survival. 8 hugs for maintenance. 12 hugs for growth. Each and
9. Bon Appetite. Cook her favorite
food. Pick up restaurant delivery on the way home or have one
of the online gourmet delivery options deliver a 5 course meal
to your doorstep. Dim the lights. Play Sinatra or another one
of her favorites and tidy the kitchen up too!
10. Sleep Tight Wishes and Bedtime
Kisses. Make the very last moment of her day special by kissing
her softly, accommodating a simple request like water or Kleenex,
pull the covers up to her chin, touch her forehead and tell her
you love her. Give her a kiss on shoulder first thing in the
If you're feeling a little shy
expressing your feelings, emotions or caring sentiments just
remember your loving caring ways are freeing you up from the
obligatory Valentine's Day retail trap.
Get a list of Valentine's Day
heartfelt expressions at www.shesite.com. Your creative loving
juices will flow and she'll hear how much you care.
Warnings -- Don't be a complete
knuckle head... buy her a Valentine's Day card.