- How to Boost Your Charisma
- by Jon Rhodes
Here are 4 top methods to help
boost your charisma…
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1. Have goals you are working
towards
There are a lot more followers
than leaders. There is nothing wrong with being a follower, but
people are naturally drawn to leaders. Set yourself goals to
work to. Have a sense of purpose and a vision - a big goal that
you are working towards. You may or may not succeed to meet your
goal, or it might change over time, but if you always have one,
people will naturally feel drawn to you as you present the possibility
of an exciting future. Don’t simply pretend to have a goal
as people will quickly see through you and you will lose all
credibility. Plus it is far more satisfying to spend life attempting
to meet realistic goals.
2. Love yourself
If you don’t like yourself,
how do you expect others to like you? Unknowingly you are constantly
giving out thousands of small subconscious clues on how to treat
you, and it all begins with treating yourself right. |
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You need to learn to appreciate
that you are a unique and valuable human being. Accept yourself
as you are. It’s okay to have flaws and work on improving
them. Indeed the most charismatic people on earth are the ones
with tons of flaws. Someone who is perfect is not really all
that interesting anyway! Love yourself and others will soon follow
suit.
3. Be honestly interested
in others
You must have met many people
who talk incessantly about themselves? This may be O.K. at first,
but after a while it becomes very tiresome and you just want
to avoid them. Charismatic people appreciate other people just
as much as they appreciate themselves. Relax and listen properly
to what other people are saying. Give them space to talk. You
will learn new interesting things, and they will notice and appreciate
that you actually listen to them. The Chinese have a saying which
is "You have two ears and one mouth – use them in that
proportion." Some people do actually struggle concentrating
on listening to others, and become anxious that they may forget
what they are thinking about saying. Relax, allow that thought
to disappear, and listen. This thought will return if it is still
relevant. With a little practice listening becomes much easier,
and you will enjoy far more productive two way conversations.
4. Model someone who you consider
very charismatic
Hypnotherapists and NLP practitioners
often very successfully utilise this technique. It could be a
friend a celebrity, or even a fictional character that you model.
You may wish to be like James Bond for example. Don’t try
and copy them exactly, just consider how they would act in the
situations you face. You have to sometimes be careful with this
as it may not be appropriate to blow the whole building up with
your watch! Get a ‘feel’ of a certain character, and
how they work on the inside. Try to catch their essence, rather
than cloning them. Done with thought and care this can significantly
raise your charisma levels.
So remember you must have goals
that you are working towards, love yourself, listen to others,
and model yourself on other charismatic people. Pretty soon you
will notice huge strides in charisma levels, and your success
and enjoyment of life will also sour. Now go out there you son
of a gun and wow the world with the new charismatic! |
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