- Find Out The Secrets for Discovering
your Life's Mission
- By Rene Tse
Identify whether or not you have
the support you need to determine your true life's purpose. The
greatest obstacle for personal growth is a dysfunctional or abusive
relationship. If we don't have a larger awareness, we end up
frozen in habitual patterns.
Take a few moments to find out
whether or not you have the right support system. Do you have
a supportive friend or spouse to encourage you to live to your
fullest potential? If you are already a multi-millionaire and
have the most supportive partner or life mission coach, you won't
need to read this article.
What are the common problems
we face to pursuing our life's mission?
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In the best sense, intimate partnerships
urge us to open our heart, while at the same time maintain our
own individuality. Many couples married for three years or more
stop seeing the magic, delight and gentleness in one another.
If one partner wants a career change or starts their own business,
the other may sabotage their partner's efforts at pursuing a
degree part-time or getting a small business off the ground.
The partner in pursuit of their life mission is happy and excited
about creating more wealth, time and freedom to enjoy with their
family.
Does your wife or husband encourage
you to explore new horizons?
'To enter into "relationship"
with another is to seek their essence, or truth. Yet most of
us, very quickly loose that ability to "relate" and
seek the truth of our partner; We are too busy seeking to 'be
right' for ourselves. Truth has many faces – Being Right
has one very rigid one, allowing room for no one else. We must
be very careful in our relationship with all; Do we seek truth
or to be right' - Kimberly Herkert |
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I love this quote by Kimberly, a
life mission teacher. Ask yourself if your partner is flexible
or rigid in support of your mission and life's passion.
I am sure you have heard the
saying. Doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting
different results is called insanity. If your
desire to start a business or have a career change is not supported
by your spouse, you may have to make a relationship change. If
you are in a new marriage and have young kids, it maybe traumatic
to separate from your spouse and pursue your life mission because
your kids will grow up in two separate households.
This may sound drastic, but maybe
it is time for a divorce. The second alternative is to stay in
a dead marriage where your life mission efforts are sabotaged.
You hate your job and everyday you slip deeper and deeper in
depression until you see a doctor and take drugs to numb your
depression.
"Relationship can lead
either to sleep or awakening." - John Welwood
Is your relationship leading
you to sleep or awakening? If the answer is sleep, have you considered
couples counseling? The third alternative if you don't want to
divorce and stay in the relationship to work things out is to
seek body centered somatic therapy. The word therapy for some
people brings shame and guilt.
Give yourself a break. Taking
care of crying babies needs, while trying to support your partner
and at the same time go through a career change can overwhelm
even the best of us. So have some compassion for yourself.
Relationships require these virtues:
generosity, humor, gentleness, compassion, selflessness, patience
and the ability to be present. If your marriage is worth saving,
it definitely is worth spending $100 to $500 an hour for however
many hours necessary to heal each other's wounds. Most people
have no problem spending thousands paying for divorce lawyers.
When you work on repairing your
marriage you might have strong feelings of frustration, or wish
that a certain situation wasn't happening. These feelings happen
when our needs are in conflict with the other partner.
You may want to spend a quiet
evening after you have put your baby to sleep to talk about starting
your own business or going back to school to change careers.
Intentionally bring mindfulness and discernment to such moments.
We can acknowledge our feelings of anger, resentment, frustration
and also our feelings of empathy and understanding. So instead
of getting angry at your baby or partner for not listening to
you, maybe it is time to hire a babysitter and go out to a quite
restaurant or café shop to have that talk with our spouse.
How to find the support you
need?
If your spouse or partner will
not support you on finding a career change and you don't want
to deal with the emotional turmoil of divorce. You can:
1. Hire a life mission coach.
It maybe necessary to rent an
office or buy a trailer and have your life mission coaching sessions
away from home. So there are no crying babies and other unexpected
distractions that could get in the way of you drawing up a game
plan to start your new profession or business.
2. Visit this website:
http://www.barbarasher.com/boards/viewforum.php?f=14
Find out when Barbara Sher will
come into your city for a mini seminar. You can sign up and work
with a group and they will support you on your life mission.
Usually, a facilitator is hired and you work with your group
for a 4 to 8 week period.
When you join the group, state
your intention or dream to your Barbara Sher support group. For
instance, let them know you want to be a pilot, horse back trail
rider tour guide, massage therapist, owner of a B&B, |
