- How to Improve Your Love Life with
the Power of Feng Shui...
- Without Spending a Dime!
By: Stephanie Roberts
FENG shui (say "fung shway")
is the art of creating a home environment that supports the life
you wish to live. A key element of feng shui is creating a smooth
flow of chi (positive energy) through your space. Chi likes to
move through your home as though it were a gentle breeze or a
meandering stream. Where it is blocked, the energy becomes stagnant--like
a pond choked with algae and fallen leaves. You are likely to
feel blocked in life, and your energy and enthusiasm for matters
of the heart will be low. Balancing and correcting the chi of
your bedroom helps encourage and invigorate romance. Here are
some quick and easy ways to improve your love life by improving
the energy of your home:
1. Clean up your bedroom
When your bedroom is cluttered
and untidy, the energy in there will be low and slow. Clutter
is a sure sign that chi is stuck, so roll up your sleeves and
clean the place up if you want to jump-start your love life.
Ring a bell, shake a rattle, or clap your hands loudly around
the room to clear out old, stale energy.
2. Make room for love
If you want to attract a new
romantic partner--or move a casual relationship closer to commitment--make
sure there is space for that person in your home. Look at your
closets, shelves, and dressers, especially in the bedroom; if
they are all filled to capacity with your own stuff, make clearing
some room for your current or future partner a priority. Aim
to free up 25% of the space in your bedroom for someone else's
things. When you are done, take a moment to visualize your loved
one's belongings finding a home there.
3. Don't work out in the bedroom
When you exercise in the bedroom,
or store your sports equipment there, you bring the energy of
hard work and exertion into your romance space. Do you want your
relationship to feel like a tough workout? If not, move your
workout stuff somewhere else; your relationship is likely to
move along more smoothly.
4. Remove old relationship energy
Go through your home--especially
your bedroom--and remove anything that reminds you of past failed
relationships; this could be an ex-boyfriend's old sweater you
find in the closet, photographs of you with a previous partner,
a gift that reminds you (unfavorably) of a giver with whom you
are no longer in love--anything that reminds you of a love that
went bad. No matter how incurable a romantic you may be, do NOT
keep old love letters anywhere in your bedroom unless they are
from someone with whom you are still blissfully paired up.
5. Remove inappropriate imagery
The images with which you surround
yourself can have a powerful effect on your love life. Feng shui
clients who complain of difficulty finding romance often have
surrounded themselves with images of a person alone. Inappropriate
imagery includes anything that represents solitude, loneliness,
aggression, hard work, conflict, or disagreement in any way.
That old photo of your Dad when he was in the army may be a treasure,
but the wartime energy it carries doesn't have any place in the
bedroom; find another place to keep it.
6. Open the door to love
Make sure both the front door
of your home and the door to your bedroom open easily and completely.
Doors that stick, squeak, or that only open partway because of
all the stuff stored behind them are blocking the flow of romantic
energy and opportunity into your home. A loose doorknob on your
bedroom door could mean you're having a hard time "getting
a handle on" romance; get out your screwdriver and tighten
7. Create a path for chi
Walk slowly from your front door
to your bedroom, pretending that you are a gentle river of chi.
Look for any areas where furniture or other belongings are stopping
or slowing the flow of chi, or where chi is diverted away from
the bedroom to other areas of the house. Clear a path so fresh
chi can find its way to your bedroom and nourish your love life.
Make sure all the lights along this route are working, replace
any burned-out bulbs, and be alert for dark or dingy corners
where you can increase the energy by adding more light.
8. Move your bed
If one side of your bed is against
the wall, the person who sleeps on that side may feel confined
or disempowered in the relationship. If possible, place the bed
so there is equal space on either side, so you and your partner
can find equal enjoyment in the relationship. The ideal position
of the bed will be on the opposite side of the room from the
door, but not directly in line with it. If you can't see the
bedroom door from the bed, hang a mirror where it will provide
a reflected view of the entry.
9. Bring romance chi into
Be sure to place romantic imagery
in these two key places in the bedroom: the wall opposite the
foot of the bed (where you naturally look when lying in bed),
and whatever area of the room you first see when you enter. Beautiful,
romantic artwork is always good, as are fresh or silk flowers
and anything in pairs (such as birds, cherubs, candles, or decorative
pillows). A round mirror is also good for the bedroom, as the
shape signifies completion and unity. Look around your home for
whatever says "romance" to you, and find a good spot
for it in your bedroom.
10. Clarify your intention
Make a collage of images that
symbolize your perfect relationship, and place it where you will
see it every day. If you are already in a relationship, invite
your partner to make a collage with you, to represent your intention
to build a joyful and loving future together.
Copyright © 2002 Stephanie