One of the
secrets of life is to keep a tranquil mind. Be at peace, whatever
is happening outside.
The most successful
negotiators are those who can keep a quiet mind.
The most able
problem solvers can keep a peaceful, unruffled, calm mind.
The best communicators
can keep a peaceful, unruffled, calm, mind.
The only way
to manage a situation in which anger flames and harsh words fly
is to keep a quiet peaceful, tranquil mind.
Let others
yell, and scream and rant, while you maintain a state of peace,
deep relaxation and calm. Calmly thinking in a peaceful way how
you can solve this problem, or even simply non-reacting.
Easily said,
but how can we do it?
Within whatever
confusion, you can remain like the eye of the hurricane, at peace
and in control while the whizzing and whirling of the things
in front of you have no power to affect you without your agreement.
Here's how!
One of the key techniques which affect the whole of your being
is one that concerns the eyes. Although the eyes have long been
thought to have magical properties, we have tended to forget
this in the modern world.
The eyes affect
not only outer vision, but also inner vision. You can tell a
person's emotions simply by looking at their eyes. In grief,
the eyes look down. In fear they flit and move searching for
danger. In anger they fix and pierce the object of anger.
Tense eyes
sometimes cause and always escalate mental moods and feelings.
By becoming aware of the way your eyes work to affect your emotions,
enables you to concentrate on your emotions and control them
through your eyes.
Mentally command
your eyes to relax. Mentally say, 'Relax!' Yes, that's it. 'Relax!'
Make them blank. Blank out all eye tension. Imagine seeing, in
your mind's eye, your eyes being blank, deadpan, lifeless, inscrutable
and unresponsive - so relaxed they are almost asleep. So wooden
they are like a heavy log, without tension and totally unresponsive.
How can you react emotionally with those unresponsive, sleepy
eyes. No response at all!
Now do you
notice how your thoughts and your body follow suit? How you begin
to think, 'I'm not interested in this.', 'This doesn't affect
me at all.' How your body begins to relax all on its own, and
in some strange way, you let go and release whatever it was that
held your attention in that unwanted way? Be sure you avoid thinking
in this way, because it will happen naturally and automatically,
without even trying? Have you noticed this?
When your
eyes are in this state they cannot cause or escalate emotions
like anger, fear, panic, turbulence, etc. They turn off these
unwanted emotions. By starting with the physical eyes, and blanking
them out, you find that your thoughts follow automatically and
so do your emotions.
Do remember
that unwanted emotions can also be pleasant. You can use the
same technique. How can, for example, a cream cake be so enticing
through these blanked out, deadpan, lifeless, inscrutable eyes?
So sleepy, and so uninterested!
Whenever you
begin to feel tense, whether this is an unpleasant feeling, or
a pleasant feeling of excitement you do not want, then begin
by relaxing your eyes
You will feel
physically relaxed
You will feel
mentally relaxed
You will be
at peace, with a tranquil mind
When your eyes are relaxed, your mind will become calm. Sometimes,
you might pay attention to your breathing and breath slowly,
slowly, in a deep relaxed way. At least to check you aren't holding
your breath!
You might
also look mentally over your body and when you notice a part
which is tense then consciously relax it. You might overlook
the way you are sitting and the tension this is causing. Scan
your body from head to toe and relax all the parts which are
tense. Then concentrate on calming your eyes. In this way you
do the opposite of escalation, and bring your whole being into
a state of peace and tranquillity.
So:
1. Relax,
blank-out, your eyes
2. Breath in fully, and out with a relaxing sigh.
3. Relax your body
4. Repeat the above to maintain a state of tranquillity.
The most important part of this technique is to relax, blank-out
your eyes. It is often enough simply to do this, without the
other points!
Mentally command
your eyes to relax. Mentally say, 'Relax!' Yes, that's it. 'Relax!'
Make your eyes blank. Blank out all eye tension. Image seeing,
in your mind's eye, your eyes being blank, deadpan, lifeless,
inscrutable and unresponsive - so relaxed they are almost asleep.
So wooden they are like a heavy log, without tension and totally
unresponsive.
How can you
react emotionally with those unresponsive, sleepy eyes, with
no response at all!
I don't know
why such a simple technique can be so effective, so useful and
practical. Yet no one ever made much progress in personal development
by simply reading about it, so study this lesson carefully and
practice this highly workable technique, so you can blank out
unwanted emotion and have a peaceful, tranquil mind.
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